I recently caught up with an ex colleague in person after connecting with him via Zoom for months.
I must say after working from home indefinitely, I have missed and craved in person interactions and connecting with another human being.
It makes it human, real, down to earth and precious.
We both used to worked at a non-profit and have since then came out to run our own private therapy practice. We have always got along well and kept in touch with one another.
One of the things I’ve learn in life is that - It’s so hard to come by people who you connect well with.
If you have people you connect well with - don’t be afraid to reach out to them. Keep them in your life. Chat to them. Meet up with them.
Any relationship is a two way street.
You can’t expect to reap benefits of a fulfilling connection if you never put in the effort.
You reap what you sow.
There are no free lunches.
During our chat about life, business and exercise, he shared a quote that really hit me.
“A ship in harbour is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.” - John A Shedd
The beautiful thing about this quote is it constructs a visual image of the ship being docked in a harbour.
Aka. The ship being YOU.
You keeping yourself safe and comfortable like a ship being docked in the harbor.
Never sailing out is you never leaving your comfort zone.
Never sailing out into the ocean to seek for adventure, opportunities, possibilities.
This quote makes you stop to think.
Do you really want to stay docked forever?
Or do you want to sail out into the ocean to find out what is possible?
The worst is you sail out, find out you don’t like the ocean and return to the dock.
But you never know if you never try.
My Story of “Sailing Out”
I took a chance and left my fulltime job a year ago.
I look back with enormous gratitude. Because I wouldn’t have started writing if I didn’t leave my job.
Everything in life comes down to writing. Emails, social media, networking, interacting, buying, selling. EVERYTHING.
I wouldn’t have created content for myself and for my business if I was employed.
Because I wouldn’t need to. Nothing would drive me to.
The beauty of trying things out for yourself is you learn as you go. You iterate and improve upon it as you go.
The school system teaches us to avoid failure, when it should be teaching us to embrace failure.
You fail when you try which allows you to learn what to do and what not do do next time.
You cant skip or prevent failure.
It is inevitable.
If you have been reading my previous newsletters, you will know that I am a huge advocate of questioning the status quo, embrace the unknown and question everything.
Aside from being a therapist, I am also an entrepreneur. I see things in a business sense that is heavily tied with bettering myself in all aspects of life.
Because that is how you live a life worth living as opposed to always sticking to your comfort zone.
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As curious and interested as I am after my friend shared the quote with me, I did my own research on that quote and came across something else to add to the quote.
“A ship docked in harbor cannot face the storms” - Unknown
If a ship is docked in the harbor and never sails out, you will never learn to face the storms.
You will never learn to sail during the hard times.
In life, if you never experience pain, you will never grow.
“No risk, no reward.
No pain, no growth.
No trauma, no depth.” - @Live your impossible
"If something doesn’t bring u to ur knees, u may never make the decision to do therapy. u may always live a life feeling disconnected" - Matthew Hussey
If you never take a risk to try something new, you will never get a different result.
If you never try to understand yourself better, you will never experience inner peace and bliss.
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My colleague made me realized something.
I was telling him that I recently realized my tendency to go all in on something backfires and created my previous and current sports injury to my wrists, due to the overuse in boxing sessions.
He shared a different yet insightful perspective. He normalized the occurence of sport injuries and shared his experiences and what he learnt from it.
“Every athlete and extremist will face injuries, it’s all about managing them.”
Just like with our emotions, we will face extreme and negative ones, it’s not about removing them, it’s about managing them.
A quote I love and put on my website is:
““Happiness is not the absence of problems but the ability to deal with them.” - Steve Maraboli
The most important part being that you have support around you - he told me he saw countless chiropractors, physiotherapists to help him with his injuries, until he came across one that truly changed his life.
He was able to return to the sport he loves, basketball in 6 weeks within seeing him.
It gave me hope and comfort, knowing that I’m not alone in this experience of being injured by something i love, boxing.
Funny enough, I had another sports injury back in 2020 that destroyed me and my mental health.
From that experience, I gained wisdom to not spiral about things beyond my control, but focusing on what I can do in the present that help myself.
Which prompted me to book in a physio therapy appointment shortly after our catchup that day so I can start my recovery journey.
Stop winging & take action.
Let’s overcome the wiring that keep us in unhealthy patterns by asking questions.
Start your journey with me Here.
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That is it for this Newsletter.
Thank you for being here on this journey with me.
See you next week.
P.S. Final reminder: My therapy service price will be increasing on July 1st, if you want to book in a session before the price change, you can do so here. I have limited availability for weekend sessions.
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#20 Don't Stay Docked Forever