#63 What I learnt in 2024
16 doors to a deeper understanding of life.
Hey you,
Happy 2025! Thanks for reading on for another year, it means the world to me to have you here :)
Here are 16 lessons I learnt, reflecting on 2024, hope you enjoy it.
Would love to hear your comments, thoughts about it below.
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Reframe loss as an opportunity and a privilege that you got to have them for a period of your life.
Reward inconsistency with unavailability. Specifically, give the gift of your absence to those who don’t appreciate your presence. Because life is too short to waste time on those who don’t care enough.
Not every loss is a loss, some loss turns out to be a gift for you later. Just like every lesson turns out to be a blessing in disguise. I once came across a quote, “What hurts now turns out to be a gift later”, when I first encountered it, I couldn’t understand it, but now it makes so much more sense. There are some things in life you won’t be able to fully understand until you’ve gone through it.
Having the curiosity to learn, to improve, to understand, to seek, is the most powerful skill to have in any relationship, whether it’s with yourself, with your partner, with parents, friends. Let curiosity drive you forward in life.
There are times in life where you have to brace yourself for the inevitable, it doesn’t lessen the pain that follows but it helps you prepare mentally.
There is never enough time or a good enough time to start, so stop holding yourself back and go for it. Through losing my dog last year, it made me realize just how short and fragile life is. Which is why I never take a moment with my loved ones for granted, not again. Because life can end at any given time, make sure you are living life to the fullest, whatever that means and looks like for you.
The importance of having and forming an opinion, articulate how you feel and your thoughts, cannot be overstated. Contextualize and help others understand your perspective when you communicate. Know who you are. The danger of not knowing means you’re a blank canvas that is easily swayed.
You set precedence to others by how you treat yourself. So make sure you treat yourself well, with respect, love, kindness and compassion.
Speaking up isn’t about achieving an outcome, but its about feeling empowered within yourself to draw the line. It’s the ultimate testament of how much you value and respect yourself.
Your version of what is “Normal” to you may not be the same for the other person. It then becomes about seeking to understand each other rather than assuming their intentions and coming to your own conclusions.
Losing, missing out on what is not meant for you will create space for what will be meant for you. So don’t fear loss, don’t fear people or things that don’t align with you anymore. Rejection is often redirection, not failure.
Regardless of what you have been told, you are deserving and worthy of love, just as you are. Not what you have done, achieved. Just you.
Accepting and loving yourself for who you are will piss some people off, but that is part of the journey. You have to accept and embrace it.
The most important part of Self Improvement, is recognizing and acknowledging the role you take in your own suffering.
The struggles you are in today is developing the strength for your future self. See it as an opportunity to rise up, like a phoenix rises from its ashes.
Reframe “What if” → “Even if” to foster your self belief. Even if X happens, I can make it because I’ve made it through worst before and nothing will make me give up on my life. Nothing.
That’s it for this newsletter.
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